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zjcarter22

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figure skating and boys
« on: July 20, 2013, 05:20:36 pm »
So,  i have notice that theres a handful of boys who i noticed would secretly laugh and talk about me ..

like, i could be doing some jumps and spins and practice my twizzle and all that but they keep saying things like sooooo gay,,,,figure skating is like ballet!!

They even call me Billy elliott...

i can ignore it, but sometimes i just cant help to feel upset ..

it puts me off and i ended up not doing anything but backwards crossovers and stuff...

gositspinxxx

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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #1 on: July 20, 2013, 07:20:17 pm »
Well I get quite upset that you say you hate people who skate on hockey skates! I do both figure skating and hockey so I'd love to hear your opinions on me  :-\  I'm the only girl on my team and I don't play games, just skate for fun and I've found everyone to be welcoming and friendly. What kind of boots a skater is wearing does not determine their personality.
Skating is like ballet, but so what? Let them think whatever they like. I can only imagine what people think when they realise I love a public session in hockey skates! At the end of the day it's your skating that matters. Just focus on your practice and ignore them, why should they stop you practicing? You can probably skate a lot better than them so don't bother worrying about it.
Lastly, there are quite a few people on this forum who play hockey, it is not for figure skating only! Sorry if the comments about hockey are rather unrelated to this particular post but it saves posting individual replies.

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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #2 on: July 20, 2013, 07:54:32 pm »
thats easily said 'dont get upset'. i dont have any strategy i am afraid. its hard when people upset you while you are skating.
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zjcarter22

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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #3 on: July 20, 2013, 08:07:57 pm »
thats easily said 'dont get upset'. i dont have any strategy i am afraid. its hard when people upset you while you are skating.

yep it affects my moral

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« Reply #4 on: July 20, 2013, 08:29:27 pm »
they cant do it, ignore them!

my coach is male and the young hockey boys took the mick, so he did their session and they fell alot (not allowed to wear their armour) and realised the pain figure skaters went through when falling etc, now =new found respect for the figure skaters
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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #5 on: July 20, 2013, 09:47:55 pm »
I'll try to answer this one on a broader point. You're clearly young and are still struggling with fitting-in and the throes of growing-up. I'm a lot, lot older, and in many ways envy your present problem, I only wish I had your youth with what I know.

Here goes...
Go on call me gay, call me whatever you like. You choose the insult. You don't like hockey' skates for kick-off. At my age it'll be water off a duck's back, and all in a way it could never be at 15. (I'm old duffer by the way) So, why you ask will this be so? Because I realise you don't really care what I think, you're too wrapped-up in your own world. So you may vent your opinion of me, but why should I really care what you think?  I know for a fact you don't really care what I think, so I'm not going to give you the head-space for your thoughts, I've got my life to live, not yours. And do I want to associate myself with someone that's bothered their head to have a pop at me? I don't knwo what you called me jsut then, but I assure you, now you've called me it, my opinion  of you just fell through the floor, so you're free to go.

Me, I'll have a quite chuckle.

So when I insult you, what should your response be now??
Am i worth it? No. You don't care one scrap what I think - now turn that round.

Go over that in your mind. Read it 2-3 times if you need to. I hope it helps.
« Last Edit: July 20, 2013, 10:07:16 pm by pantomimehorse »
I'm talentless, but I care not. Maybe I'll see you at MK or Hemel. I'm the ol' duffer with his 5 yr old boy.

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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #6 on: July 20, 2013, 10:34:39 pm »
Discovered girls yet? ;)

pantomimehorse

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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #7 on: July 20, 2013, 11:17:43 pm »
isk8 - well said. An accurte observation, and more succint. Which will the girls want. Some loon hooliganing round a rink or a dance-partner?
I'm talentless, but I care not. Maybe I'll see you at MK or Hemel. I'm the ol' duffer with his 5 yr old boy.

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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #8 on: July 21, 2013, 12:52:58 pm »
Depends on the girl - some of the girls at my rink on weekends LOVE the super fast hockey skaters.


Me, I watch hockey and figure skate. You know what? Call me what you like, because I do not care anymore. I had 5 years of bullying at school, I can take whatever people at the rink throw my way. Fortunately the worst I've had was some lad who could barely balance try and copy me when I was on a Christmas rink a few years back. He was following me and imitating me when I was doing one foot glides (back when a 1 foot glide for me was imitating a spiral!). I did eventually say something to him, and he left me alone.


As an aside, I have massive respect for hockey players and a lot of respect for the 2 gentlemen I regularly skate with, who are learning to figure skate. Skating, in any form, is hard.
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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #9 on: July 21, 2013, 05:58:02 pm »
Depends on the girl - some of the girls at my rink on weekends LOVE the super fast hockey skaters.

It's a phase; some/most of them get over it and look for something beyond the, how shall I say, 'Me Tarzan, You Jane' approach - but, for obvious reasons, I'm not going to be publishing my best-selling books on 'understanding the opposite gender' any time soon.  Just say that it's one factor. ;)

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Re: figure skating and boys
« Reply #10 on: July 21, 2013, 07:36:08 pm »
Do your own thing.  Anyone who can't handle that: laugh at them/ignore them/feel sorry for them.



 

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