Welcome to the forum; it's actually a really good question too.
Enthusiasm is really important with skating, so as you said it's important not to discourage.
A couple of ideas:
Cross-training/watching; things like ballroom, or ballet where body movement is precise/flowing/graceful.
The idea is to inspire someone to want to pay attention to their presentation/perfectionism/finesse/virtuoso.
The right music may help too.
https://www.iceskating.org.uk/results <- Pick one which doesn't have speed skater pictured.
Have a look at the Judges Scores (right-hand side; pdf)
Notice the GOE - Grade of Execution; how well the element was done.
Total Element Score + Total Program Component Score = Total Segment Score <- the skater's mark.
Notice the value of the component score for things like skating skills, & presentation.
The idea (if they are interested in competing) is to impress the importance of doing something well.
Also the skating syllabus is a one-size-fits-all, which is silly because everyone learns differently, at different rates.
Think of it more as a guide; if your daughter can chip away at learning something at a higher level; great, don't view it as a bad thing.
You mentioned that you're not convinced about her form; how so?
Are you comparing skating with others at the rink; are there any role model skaters that she'd like to be as good as?
Lastly, ice skating has a ridiculously high turnover rate; partly I believe this is because of the skating syllabus.
It's important to develop individuality/character/signature moves; keep it fun.